Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Tequila Talk Tuesday | He Said, She Said with True Speech

It's the infamous relationship social media question, "Why don't you share our picture on your social media accounts?"  It all started when I saw the following post on Angie Yee's IG account:

I've been going through little issues with my lady about why I don't post thousands of pics all over social media with cheesy captions like others do.  I do put up random pics of her occasionally but I've always took social media as being strictly entertainment, not to much personal.  When she sees guys post pics of their lady all day she says that you can tell that those guys are faithful and questions me about if I am LOL.  What do you think?

Check out how True Speech and I tackle this question from a male vs. female perspective.

He Said......

I believe that nowadays social media grants far to many people access into private details of your life. Me personally I am a very private individual and do not broadcast my life for the world to see, especially my dating life.  The Internet is a 24 hour reality TV show where anyone and everyone can  chime in and give their opinions based on the perception of what they see.  So when it comes to posting tons of random and cheesy pictures with your girlfriend for the world to see (mainly strangers who have no business in the confines of your relationship in the first place) then you are doing nothing more than seeking alienation from people who don't really matter.

I find that most young women today crave and seek attention from social media in order to not only validate themselves, but validate their relationships as well, which in turn gives them a false sense of security.  My advice, talk to your girl and let her know that you are truly in your relationship for the both of you, and not simply for likes and comments online.  The foundation of a relationship can not be built through cell phone pictures and cute captions but rather two people who are truly committed to one another regardless of external factors.  There is nothing wrong with showing your lady that you are proud to claim her and show that you truly care for her and as a man you should BUT EVERYTHING must be done in moderation and only for the right reasons.

She Said......

Ahhh, yes as ladies we want to make sure the internet trolls aren't out there lurking on pages trying to get our boos.  What some women don't realize is that a picture saying some cute caption doesn't stop a woman from coming for your man or vice versa.  If you are just in a dating relationship, chill girl because if he isn't doing key things like introducing you to family, taking you out to places or allowing you over his home (especially when he isn't there) posting your picture on The Gram won't make a difference.

If this is a deal breaker for you I have some not so good news, it's not going to change.  He has made his intentions known and by continuing to bark about the same thing it's going to get old with him really quick.  The good news is sharing on your page is your right and if he has a problem with that then some basic core components of the relationship are lacking.  Social media does not make a relationship, it has destroyed more relationships then I care to think of.  Use it as a tool to stay in communication with people not to prove that you can have a man.  The most humble of people gain the respect of men and the women that are trying to get what they think you have.  By giving them a daily "vomit" of how much ya'll are boo'd up won't stop the thirst of others it might just fuel the wrong kind of attention.

Feel free to chime in the comments section and tell us how you feel on the subject.  Also be sure to follow True Speech on IG and Twitter @mytruespeech and check out his recently released album Pirate Radio on The Family Grind label.  Thanks for joining me for He Said, She Said this week True!

Monday, September 22, 2014

Curvy Momager's Court | Family photos

We were long over due for family photos.  Yes we have tons of them on my Galaxy but what happens if I
A) Lose it
B) Damage the phone or
C) The Memory Card gets messed up???

Even though all of my photos are copied on Google+ there is nothing like an experience of family photos.  Here are a few reasons to get a professional to capture this moment in life:
  • Kids grow way to fast
  • One day you just might need pictures to have printed in a photo album thing obits, party program, shots for the NBA when they want to do a Mother's Day feature (hint hint)
  • Photographers are professionals and they have great ideas of fabulous shots to capture.
  • Website and blog photos
  • Family photos are great to hang up in the living room with beautiful frames.  Enhances your decor with memories.
Here are a few shots from our photo shoot a few weeks ago that I happen to L-O-V-E.  I'm having a hard time deciding which ones to get reproduced so I'm just going to get them all on a disc to have for future use.  Get out there and take some photos with your family Momager you won't regret it and make sure you do them outside.  Studio shots are so like 90s. :)  Have a blast!

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Moms on Fiyah | Judge Lauren Lake

Moms have to do so much that it's only right that I spotlight them on my blog.  After all this Momager Movement is spreading and Moms are supporting each other and shining.  Judge Lauren Lake is one of those moms that is shining so much that when I asked her if she could name a nail polish after herself she said, "Limitless" and that it would, "be platinum to reflect all the hue of the sun."  Well now....

Judge Lake gives straight advice on her hit show Paternity Court that is back for another season September 22nd.  If you've never caught a show set the DVR because you're missing some really good TV.  Some people compare it to the, You're The Father of Maurie Povich fame but nah....Judge Lake is more than truth telling serum, her quick witted advice gives troubled families real life solutions to paternity issues.

Her most passionate shows are ones that bring families closer together after being torn apart by a paternity secret.  The goal for the show when she started has been met and has surpassed her expectations.  The positive response from the audience and number of families helped as a result of the show are rewards for producing a quality program aimed at uplifting families. Success of the show is evident and the viewers will have an opportunity to see many updates from the previous season on how families are working out their deepest paternity issues, thanks to the advice given by Judge Lauren.   More no nonsense advice and raw emotion are in store for this season as well.  Check out a preview of what you can expect when the new season starts on 9/22/14.

Emotions are going to be really displayed for all to see and most importantly learn from.  Judge Lake's message to fatherless children is to not repeat the cycle.  Her advice, "First protect yourself when having sex.  Second if paternity is ever an issue, do something about it.  Don't let it fester.  Get the answers you need so all parties can move forward."

This mom is actually more than on fiyah she's glowing.  Raising a young son, being the star of a highly viewed television show and saving families from downward spiraling is all in a days work for her.  I for one am excited to see what the new season will offer viewers and am in hope that the tons of people watching are learning from the lessons given using it to diminish the number of fatherless children.  Thank you Judge Lauren for being a voice willing to share your wisdom and generosity with others.  You are in fact Limitless.

Check your local listings for times in your area and also follow the show on social media, Instagram - @paternitycourttv Twitter - @paternitycourt and Facebook - www.facebook.com/paternitycourt.

Monday, September 15, 2014

Momager Dopeness | Apple has sparked my creativity

This morning I'm feeling really motivated and inspired.  One reason is because one of my good friends at Marlin Page was hanging with Oprah Winfrey at her Detroit leg of her Live Your Best Life tour.  I mean really....Ms. O!  That was something pretty awesome.  Congrats Marlin and Oprah!  Then something else happened. 

Yesterday The Phenom was working on his article for the school newspaper.  It was on technology and he decided to talk about the new IPhone 6.  Part of his research was to watch the most recent Apple Live event.  I started watching with him and just shook my head at the magnitude they launch their products and it just got me motivated and charged to keep being CREATIVE.  If you haven't seen it check it out by clicking the video below and don't just salivate at the new IPhone but use it to get you inspired for you own launch. 

Keep growing,

Curvy Momager

                                                     From the Apple YouTube account

Friday, September 12, 2014

Friday Maunin DJ

Hey Party Mamas!  If you aren't jamming to this one you ain't livin'!  Enjoy and have yourself a great weekend.

Video from iTunes by way of YouTube

Monday, September 8, 2014

Tequila Talk Tuesday - He Said...She Said

I do a little thing over on my Facebook page and sometimes YouTube account called Tequila Talk Tuesday.  Talking about the subjects that sometimes makes you wanna grab a shot of Tequila and then comment.  This week I'm doing something a tiny bit different and I invited one of my male buds to share his opinion in my first TTT He Said...She Said segment.

So here is the question and it stems from a recently aired episode of Atlanta Ex's.  Would you date a person if you found out they slept (one night stand) with a friend of a friend?

He Said......

Would I date someone who once dated a friend of a friend? Absolutely. Although we men are generally territorial about the women we love, there are some exceptions to the rule. Some women are too good to be true. When you encounter someone like that it changes your way of thinking. But, when you say "friend of a friend," I don't feel as threatened because I may not have to encounter this dude all that often. It's not like he's my friend, he's a "friend OF A friend." Could he poison my friend's mind with ill talks of he and my lady's previous relationship? Yes. But, if she's good for me and to me, then a friend of a friend means nothing to my relationship. Now if my friend once dated this lady then she would be off limits out of respect to my friend. I don't owe my friend's friend jack.

She Said......

First of all I feel the person would be fair game.  If this person was my girlfriend, ace boone coon then the answer would be NO.  At this age anyone you date is going to have a past and as long as the past doesn't directly cross over mine, it's all good.  Second it was a one night stand and their was no emotion involved.  Again fair game.  I think that knowing who you are and expressing your expectations should give you the green light to be happy and enjoy yourself and them. 

Friday, September 5, 2014

Momager Dopeness | 5 things Curvy Girls like to hear

Curvy girls work hard to get that way. No easy fixes on this (somewhat) smaller waist and round hips.  Besides these things HURT, worse than Spanx and ladies they truly aren't good for you.  Just hit the gym.

These bras are sold at Lane Bryant and they have some stand alone stores in malls.   They are cute, comfy, sophisticated, sexy, girly, sleek, fit and oh yeah pricey.  But you really can't complain because they really give the Curvy Girl a great bra option.  Something that was hard to find years ago.

I think every women wants to hear this but for a Curvy Girl it gives us that extra confidence to give it a little extra swerve.  Most times it makes me feel like Beyonce in the Grown Woman video when she smashes all the mirrors....WERK!

Trust me even if she hasn't lost any weight you
can never go wrong with this comment.  Unless she's PMSing or something.  Somebody tells me this and I'm running to have McDonald's for lunch. snicker

Who doesn't want to be a fashionista?  I mean when I hear this I feel like Hurricane Curvynista and want to offer my curvy style advice to everyone.  This let's a Curvy Girl know she's on point with dressing stylish and appropriate.

So instead of things you shouldn't say to a Curvy Girl (shame on you Huffington Post) try paying her a compliment and watch how much she'll sparkle.

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Curvy Momager's Court | Back to the gym

I totally took the entire months of July and August off from consistent exercise.  Yes I hit a few hotel gyms and faked a few sit-ups in the morning but nothing like I had been accustomed to doing since committing to working out in January of this year.  Whelp it's time to get back to it because I'm quickly turning into the Plumpy Momager instead of the Curvy Momager.  Waist training anyone?  Only kidding, I'm scared of that thing.

So here's the plan.....

Back to running (ugh) I mean yeah!

10 day Green Smoothie Cleanse by JJ Smith

Situps, morning....noon...night

Weight lifting, my arms really miss it and are flapping around looking for it.

Staying motivated

By my birthday (10/25) I should be down about 15, well I'm hoping at least.  Watch the transformation it's gonna be on and poppin for Scorpio Season!

Monday, September 1, 2014

The Phenom | Time for Driving Lessons

I would really rather prefer The Phenom learn to drive the lane instead of driving my car.  The time has come however for him to take driving classes and frankly....my nerves can not take it!  I remember when I
was learning to drive and how patient my mother was, I don't have that same patience.  It's not that I don't think he can do it I just envision all the times I have had to say, "Kyle did you take out the trash?"  or when he's called to say..."Mom I forgot my deodorant, can you drop it off at school?"  Why would I want such a forgetful child to be on the road maneuvering in traffic?   Am I being over dramatic?  I have that tendency but really this is scaring me.

My first step, I guess, is online driving school.  I have a feeling those 20 hours are going to go fast and he'll be ready to move on to the actual driving classes and practicing in my car.  Oy!  I'm looking for suggestions Momagers.  How have you dealt with your teen learning to drive?  I mean this is really frazzling me and I'm not easily frazzled.  Help a Mom out!