Now when I saw the title and read the description I thought to myself the book must be about helicopter parenting. You know those parents that cut the crust from their kids PB & J or that volunteer so much at school people think they work there. I wasn't too far off base but what I wasn't expecting is how much Kris Jennering (yes I made up that term) I was actually doing with my own heartbeats. I mean if there was a definition in the encyclopedia for "over parenting" you'd see me waving in a picture next to it. What I love about the author however is that she admits to being a little bit guilty of it too. She admits to a time that she was over anxious waiting on her young son to walk home alone after dark one evening. The walk was less than 10 minutes from home. So even though I was flipping the pages cringing about my single mama parental mistakes I knew I wasn't alone but still could use some knowledge being dropped in this book.
I broke down what I learned from the book like this:
The Deal: I am a true Momager when it comes to the court. Yelling at refs, having "little" chats with coaches and after game talks with The Phenom are part of the routine around here. But it just doesn't end with him, The Mogul just had to have the customized lei for her....8th grade graduation. It was so heavy it annoyed her the entire night.
The Rationale: About 5 years ago my brood and I moved from big city Detroit to small town Bakersfield with no family in town. After a divorce, becoming a single mom and being in a new city drew me closer to my kids. I was the only dotting parent and I took that role pretty seriously. This isn't an excuse just the reality.
The Realization: So after reading the book I was able to look at our situation and make some evaluations.
Fact 1. If The Phenom was hungry he'd rather hear the noise from his stomach instead of making cereal.
Fact 2. The Mogul is helpful but has lately been wanting On-Demand attention.
Fact 3. I was going to be leaving them on vacation with my parents and was concerned I'd be exposed for the overbearing parent I had turned in to. Well maybe I have been one all along.
The Game Plan: Knowing that its time for me to Raise Adults and
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