Tequila Talk Tuesday | He Said She Said with Talk 2 Q

Todays TTT starts with this picture here......

Yes it's what you think you see.  Two women, two babies, one daddy and one shower.  I challenge Q to share his opinion on this one and then you can see what my thoughts are below.  Read on...

He Said.....

What in the Wide World of Sports is going on when a man impregnates two women at the same time and attends a baby shower for both of them?I don't get it. Have women lost their minds? Yeah, I do blame the women in this incident. Not because they're pregnant at the same time by one dude. He could have lied his way into their v*****s simultaneously. But, the fact that they're okay with it enough to have a double baby shower with him smiling like the pimp they've made him out to be is absolutely ridiculous. Does he deserve part of the blame? Of course! However, who allows themselves to be made into a fool and then celebrate it with another fool? Now you're an IG meme and I'm bad-mouthing you to Robin's readers. Women, we men definitely need to have more pride in ourselves, but I thought that you all were supposed to be the smart ones? Why subject yourself to such ignorance and allow a guy to make you look bad like this?

She Said.....

When I first saw the picture I thought RATCHET, WTF, DUMMMIES. Then I had to really think is there ANYTHING positive about this?  Well the one possible positive is that they both know about

each other and aren't ripping each other weaves out (yet) trying to trump the other for this little clowns attention. This could end very soon however when baby mama #1 is waiting for Pampers and milk when the BD is at baby mama #2's house kicking it. Awe hell this is just going to end bad.                      Ladies think about your children, stop being selfish as H E double hockey sticks! In reality ish happens but why are you parading this in your gold lame ball gown and matching pimp chair? Yeah it's none of my business but when you all are duking it out over the food stamps and lack of child support check this "framily" picture will be a horrible reminder of the huge mistake you made trusting someone that was not even loving enough to protect you before he slept with someone else 2 hours later.  But that's just my .02

Thanks Q for joining me for this week's TTT, always good to have you.  Want to listen in on more of Q's option?  He's got a great thing going over there on Blog Talk Radio.  Check out his show schedule here: Talk 2 Q Radio.

Tequila Talk Tuesday | He Said, She Said with True Speech

It's the infamous relationship social media question, "Why don't you share our picture on your social media accounts?"  It all started when I saw the following post on Angie Yee's IG account:

I've been going through little issues with my lady about why I don't post thousands of pics all over social media with cheesy captions like others do.  I do put up random pics of her occasionally but I've always took social media as being strictly entertainment, not to much personal.  When she sees guys post pics of their lady all day she says that you can tell that those guys are faithful and questions me about if I am LOL.  What do you think?

Check out how True Speech and I tackle this question from a male vs. female perspective.

He Said......

I believe that nowadays social media grants far to many people access into private details of your life. Me personally I am a very private individual and do not broadcast my life for the world to see, especially my dating life.  The Internet is a 24 hour reality TV show where anyone and everyone can  chime in and give their opinions based on the perception of what they see.  So when it comes to posting tons of random and cheesy pictures with your girlfriend for the world to see (mainly strangers who have no business in the confines of your relationship in the first place) then you are doing nothing more than seeking alienation from people who don't really matter.

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I find that most young women today crave and seek attention from social media in order to not only validate themselves, but validate their relationships as well, which in turn gives them a false sense of security.  My advice, talk to your girl and let her know that you are truly in your relationship for the both of you, and not simply for likes and comments online.  The foundation of a relationship can not be built through cell phone pictures and cute captions but rather two people who are truly committed to one another regardless of external factors.  There is nothing wrong with showing your lady that you are proud to claim her and show that you truly care for her and as a man you should BUT EVERYTHING must be done in moderation and only for the right reasons.

She Said......

Ahhh, yes as ladies we want to make sure the internet trolls aren't out there lurking on pages trying to get our boos.  What some women don't realize is that a picture saying some cute caption doesn't stop a woman from coming for your man or vice versa.  If you are just in a dating relationship, chill girl because if he isn't doing key things like introducing you to family, taking you out to places or allowing you over his home (especially when he isn't there) posting your picture on The Gram won't make a difference.

If this is a deal breaker for you I have some not so good news, it's not going to change.  He has made his intentions known and by continuing to bark about the same thing it's going to get old with him really quick.  The good news is sharing on your page is your right and if he has a problem with that then some basic core components of the relationship are lacking.  Social media does not make a relationship, it has destroyed more relationships then I care to think of.  Use it as a tool to stay in communication with people not to prove that you can have a man.  The most humble of people gain the respect of men and the women that are trying to get what they think you have.  By giving them a daily "vomit" of how much ya'll are boo'd up won't stop the thirst of others it might just fuel the wrong kind of attention.

Feel free to chime in the comments section and tell us how you feel on the subject.  Also be sure to follow True Speech on IG and Twitter @mytruespeech and check out his recently released album Pirate Radio on The Family Grind label.  Thanks for joining me for He Said, She Said this week True!

Tequila Talk Tuesday - He Said...She Said

I do a little thing over on my Facebook page and sometimes YouTube account called Tequila Talk Tuesday.  Talking about the subjects that sometimes makes you wanna grab a shot of Tequila and then comment.  This week I'm doing something a tiny bit different and I invited one of my male buds to share his opinion in my first TTT He Said...She Said segment.

So here is the question and it stems from a recently aired episode of Atlanta Ex's.  Would you date a person if you found out they slept (one night stand) with a friend of a friend?

He Said......


Would I date someone who once dated a friend of a friend? Absolutely. Although we men are generally territorial about the women we love, there are some exceptions to the rule. Some women are too good to be true. When you encounter someone like that it changes your way of thinking. But, when you say "friend of a friend," I don't feel as threatened because I may not have to encounter this dude all that often. It's not like he's my friend, he's a "friend OF A friend." Could he poison my friend's mind with ill talks of he and my lady's previous relationship? Yes. But, if she's good for me and to me, then a friend of a friend means nothing to my relationship. Now if my friend once dated this lady then she would be off limits out of respect to my friend. I don't owe my friend's friend jack.



She Said......

First of all I feel the person would be fair game.  If this person was my girlfriend, ace boone coon then the answer would be NO.  At this age anyone you date is going to have a past and as long as the past doesn't directly cross over mine, it's all good.  Second it was a one night stand and their was no emotion involved.  Again fair game.  I think that knowing who you are and expressing your expectations should give you the green light to be happy and enjoy yourself and them. 

Tequila Talk Tuesday - Self Bullying

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Have a great Tuesday,



Curvy Momager

Moment In Life Monday | So I was on vacation and...

Yeah like I really enjoyed my Thanksgiving vacation a LOT and got no work done at all.  Wow I guess I needed it.  I hope each of you had a wonderful Turkey Day as well.  Back tomorrow with Tequila Talk Tuesday and BOY do I have a topic for you!  Enjoy the Thanksgiving Afterglow and be sure to check Facebook and IG tomorrow. 

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Toodles,

Curvy Momager