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Tequila Talk Tuesday | He Said, She Said with True Speech

It's the infamous relationship social media question, "Why don't you share our picture on your social media accounts?"  It all started when I saw the following post on Angie Yee's IG account:

I've been going through little issues with my lady about why I don't post thousands of pics all over social media with cheesy captions like others do.  I do put up random pics of her occasionally but I've always took social media as being strictly entertainment, not to much personal.  When she sees guys post pics of their lady all day she says that you can tell that those guys are faithful and questions me about if I am LOL.  What do you think?

Check out how True Speech and I tackle this question from a male vs. female perspective.

He Said......

I believe that nowadays social media grants far to many people access into private details of your life. Me personally I am a very private individual and do not broadcast my life for the world to see, especially my dating life.  The Internet is a 24 hour reality TV show where anyone and everyone can  chime in and give their opinions based on the perception of what they see.  So when it comes to posting tons of random and cheesy pictures with your girlfriend for the world to see (mainly strangers who have no business in the confines of your relationship in the first place) then you are doing nothing more than seeking alienation from people who don't really matter.

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I find that most young women today crave and seek attention from social media in order to not only validate themselves, but validate their relationships as well, which in turn gives them a false sense of security.  My advice, talk to your girl and let her know that you are truly in your relationship for the both of you, and not simply for likes and comments online.  The foundation of a relationship can not be built through cell phone pictures and cute captions but rather two people who are truly committed to one another regardless of external factors.  There is nothing wrong with showing your lady that you are proud to claim her and show that you truly care for her and as a man you should BUT EVERYTHING must be done in moderation and only for the right reasons.

She Said......

Ahhh, yes as ladies we want to make sure the internet trolls aren't out there lurking on pages trying to get our boos.  What some women don't realize is that a picture saying some cute caption doesn't stop a woman from coming for your man or vice versa.  If you are just in a dating relationship, chill girl because if he isn't doing key things like introducing you to family, taking you out to places or allowing you over his home (especially when he isn't there) posting your picture on The Gram won't make a difference.

If this is a deal breaker for you I have some not so good news, it's not going to change.  He has made his intentions known and by continuing to bark about the same thing it's going to get old with him really quick.  The good news is sharing on your page is your right and if he has a problem with that then some basic core components of the relationship are lacking.  Social media does not make a relationship, it has destroyed more relationships then I care to think of.  Use it as a tool to stay in communication with people not to prove that you can have a man.  The most humble of people gain the respect of men and the women that are trying to get what they think you have.  By giving them a daily "vomit" of how much ya'll are boo'd up won't stop the thirst of others it might just fuel the wrong kind of attention.

Feel free to chime in the comments section and tell us how you feel on the subject.  Also be sure to follow True Speech on IG and Twitter @mytruespeech and check out his recently released album Pirate Radio on The Family Grind label.  Thanks for joining me for He Said, She Said this week True!

Social Media Fast | Aha Moments

Last week I completed a 24-hour social media fast.  Yup....no Facebook, Instagram and sniff, sniff, sniff Twitter.  It was a pretty long 24 hours.  I think I even went to bed early ya'll.  It's amazing how much SM is a total part of my life.  I did learn a few things however and just to get you hyped about trying it yourself, I'm sharing my Aha List from a Social Media Fast.

I will admit this wasn't an easy thing.  I mean I had to put my phone in my purse during the day and in the living room at night.  It's bad ya'll.  Special thanks to @danachanel that I follow on Instagram.  If you need that Sprinkle of Jesus in your life she is the gal to follow.

Yes I'll be doing it again because it really was refreshing to not hear that buzzing and notification ring every second on my phone although it was missed.  What do they say absence makes the heart grow fonder!  The Mogul even questioned, "Mom is your phone broke?"  Yeah I think I need to unplug a little more often.

Signing off for now...just off the blog not social media!  [Insert praising the Lord emoji here]

Moment In Life Monday | Social Media Friends

We all have them.  They are closer than friends in your head those social media friends.  Folks you've only met through social media but you really make a connection with them.  I often wonder if you have to have some sort of personality in order to create non face to face relationships?  My type B personality is pretty easy to get along with and might be the reason I've developed some great friendships through IG, Facebook and Twitter.

One of the best friendships I've created was with my accountability partner, Meleisha Edwards.  We actually were introduced via FB through a mutual friend and started following each other.  Meleisha, being the wonderful person that she is suggested that we become accountability partners after she read a

post that I put up.  At first we meet once a week via phone making sure we were following up on all of our "to do" list items that we had on our vision boards.  The friendship just grew from there.  I really count Meleisha as someone I can count on to lift me up when I'm doubting myself.  She can put me into overdrive too!  I put out an idea and we plot together on how to get it done.  Don't think it's only one-sided I've listened to her next life steps, read her proposals for blogging adventures and rejoiced with her when she met Queen Latifah -- her idol!  She even starred in a movie with her once.  My friend is just fabulous and without this wonderful thing called social media I probably would have not built this friendship.  I love SOCIAL MEDIA!  Thanks Facebook.

Now I've also met a few people at blogger events I've been to and connected with afterward and recently I found out that one of them is suffering from cancer.  Cancer SUCKS!  I felt some sort of way about that.  I mean I know her but don't know her and felt strange about leaving "comments" when I read about her diagnosis.  Needless to say I did and she responded that she really needed to hear my kind words and they helped her make it through a difficult day.  Once again I was thankful for touching someone through social media that I wouldn't have been able to reach out to had we not followed one another on Twitter.

Do you have a social media friend that you've connected with and it's grown into a real friendship?  Share in the comments and share with your friend.  I'm sure they'd love to know how great you think they are.  Have a great Monday!


With style,


Robin

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Whatchu Doin Wednesdays | The Unselfie

Now is it unselfish to take a photo of...yourself...doing an act of kindness and post it on social media?  Hmmm.....  Something about that just doesn't seem, well, err quite right.  Tons of celebs and fabulous everdayers are doing just that though.  Each Tuesday you'll see post on your local IG feed of people doing "selfless acts" and spreading them in hopes of going viral.  Yeah I know you all are saying in your head, "This chick shares her entire life on SM." so I see how people want to spread their good works but don't pretend that it's unselfish to do so.  Call a spade a spade.  One goodie from it however is that it will hopefully catch on and the act of volunteering or practicing random kindness will be the real benefit of going viral.  And that is the real story here.  As a matter of fact many non-profit organizations are benefiting by these post and tons of #moneyisbeingdonated. (How'd you like that hashtag? :))  

Photo cred: meltybuzz.fr

So go ahead next Tuesday and posterize yourself for something other than that OOTD and show us how you unselfie yourself by tagging @curvymomager in your post.

Moment In Life Monday | So I was on vacation and...

Yeah like I really enjoyed my Thanksgiving vacation a LOT and got no work done at all.  Wow I guess I needed it.  I hope each of you had a wonderful Turkey Day as well.  Back tomorrow with Tequila Talk Tuesday and BOY do I have a topic for you!  Enjoy the Thanksgiving Afterglow and be sure to check Facebook and IG tomorrow. 

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Toodles,

Curvy Momager